I had very strong submissive urges up until I lost my virginity. I'd always heard I was a born leader all my life, but I didn't understand what everybody was on about until my early 20'ies.

I'm still not sure if I'm dominant because I'm trying to fit in with my nature, or if I was a dominant in denial.

It often feels like I'm dominant because for me it's the least resistance. At least as far as my mental make up is concerned. For me taking conflicts head on and sticking out is the least emotionally stressful thing for me to do. I don't blend in well in crowds. Not if I'm not trying hard.

I still get turned on by fantasizing that I'm submissive. I even fantasize about being a woman.... hmm.... but then again I can get turned on by virtually anything, so that's not saying much....