Originally posted by S_Couture
But that other shit with the slash is fucked up. Whoever invented it should be buggered with a potscrubber.
What I was saying about people learning BDSM online also applies to this. It has absolutely no basis in real life whatsoever. How would it? Do you enter a play praty or a friend's home and say "Hello all with a capital a slash little a. How is everyone with a capital e slash little e tonight? I'm with a little i doing great and I with a little i hope everyone with a capital e slash little e is doing well, too."


Originally posted by flower{J}
i will agree that it can sometimes be difficult to read text of any length with the slashes included, but for this sub anyway, it is a show of respect when refering to Dom/Dommes.
Again, if you ask me, dominants should have enough confidence in themselves and self-respect AND even respect for their submissives and all submissives to NOT EXPECT their You's, Our's, and whatever else's to be capitalized. It's just ego, pure and simple. There's no other reason for it. If your dominant feels that he or she must have their pronouns capitalized, maybe you ought to ask them why and ignore any BS they give you about respect. Because, respect is what you feel, not what you type.

Originally posted by flower{J}
That sentence came across condescending and trivialized what being a sub is about.
I think S_Couture was just trying to say that what's good enough for the goose should be good enough for the gander. If you think you MUST respect your dominant by typing his or her name in caps, then shouldn't you also HAVE to show him or her your respect by uncapping your name, too?

Originally posted by flower{J}
So maybe each forum should have guidelines as to what is acceptable and what is not.
It's not feasible to do so. Every chat, message board and bulletin board would have to have a seperate board for every person or couple or group that floowed one set of rules. And if one person's or couple's or group's rules don't quite follow anyone else's rules, then I guess they just get their own chat/board all to themselves, right?

please try to remember that just because this is BDSM, that's not reason for you to lose your perspective. Remember, you're still a human, after all. Don't you want to be treated like one?