Topping from the Bottom?

[Euryleia]

We always talk about this as if the only opportunity to communicate the sub's desires is during the scene.

Fascetiouly, I'm asking... don't any of you talk about bdsm/kink/ 'D/s' any other times?

I'm going to bump Oz's reply here because it is a very good point. I talk to my girl a lot out of playtime and get her to share her fantasies, her fears, her dreams, etc. I read her journal entries and I even have her write out stories, all of which help me tailor scenes that works to satisfy us both.

That's not her Topping from below, that's just building a successful relationship.