So many good comments here with which I partially agree. Dzire2Pleeze, I share your thought that online relationships have to potential to allow you to see the real person. People online have the choice to be totally honest or totally fake. Personally, I don’t see the point of presenting myself as something other than one I am. I am really enjoying the opportunity to let down all my guards and strip my soul naked online. Unlike you, Silke, I have exchanged pictures with Brosco, but we didn’t do it until after we had gotten to know each other. Quite frankly, other than being interesting to see if we looked the way we had each imagined the other, the pictures were irrelevant - just a shadow in the back of the mind. Our minds are always front and center and are where the real attraction lies. That being said, Phantasy_seeker, you make a good point in that our looks do reveal something about our personalities - to the extent that we have control over our looks. The gorgeous stud who never has a hair out of place is nice eye candy, but doesn’t appeal to me because, in my opinion, he values looks over substance. On the other hand, the guy with ragged greasy hair and unkempt clothing seems to lack care and control, and what kind of a dom lacks care and control. I don’t see giving someone the care and control of my body if they don’t take good care and control of their own. Like the other mentioned, I find the quiet, controlled “nice guy” looks very appealing.

fantassy