Thanks for all your suport here. This really does seem to be a very friendly place. I felt at home straight away.

...and the break up is not at all as bad as I made it sound. We still love each other and we still have great sex, which is amazing considering the long six years we've had with each other. We just can't live together. She has needs that I because of my work can't fulfill and she feels neglected and pissed off, which only makes me aggravated. Finally both of us realised that combining work with being married to each other just doesn't work for us. We're both full time professionals and have very different interests.

When it comes to comunication I think we've managed to keep it open and honest without both of us having to give up our own identities. That's probably what's kept the love alive all these years. Emotionally it could have been a lot worse for me, and probably the full impact won't hit me until she's out the door, which will happen October 1'st.

Now I can focus on my passion for writing without feeling like I'm neglecting anybody, which is a great feeling.

thanks for your suport everybody.
-Tom