I think what Chromedome might be saying, is why should the vanilla world know the details of your relationship. There is no reason one cannot show non-sexual generally dominant or submissive behavior out in the vanilla world. Is is really necessary to lead a sub around by a leash ? Why not lead her by the elbow? Looks solicitous to the vanilla, but is still controlling. Even most in the vanilla world modify their behavior in public to create the impression they desire to create. If you truly don't care what impression you make, you pretty much can behave however you want provided you are not breaking a law. So it is not the vanilla world that is forcing you to hide, it is your own desire to blend in. And there is nothing wrong with that.

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