When angel and I started talking, I made it clear to her early on that I had a vision of another subbie, and if we were to get involved, she could expect that one day, if we ever find her...(hint, hint) she will have a sub-sister. We talked about it a fair amount, and while at first she hesitated, she eventually found acceptance and benefit in the idea.

Why do I need this? I was thinking about this thread while watching tv yesterday. angel was gently rubbing my scalp, and i realized that she couldnt rub my feet as long as she was up near my head, lol. But if she had a sub-sister.....

Seriously though, the amount of controversy that this topic has stirred among our family has surprised me. Out of any sort of group gathering in life, the people in our lifestyle tend to be more acceptant of others. Do I think it's possible to have a poly/bdsm dynamic? Yes, without doubt. Would it be hard to manage? Certainly. Lots of us search all our lives for 'the one'. It stands to reason that finding two 'the one's' would be much more difficult. Difficult, but not impossible. angel and I may never get our wish for a sub-sister. We've sampled a few and never made it past the first few rounds of emails and chats, but we won't stop the search, because that is the dynamic that we both desire. At the same time, lack of finding her will not ruin what we have together, and we are both content with each other whether we find her or not.