Ok... regardless of what you know she wants or will or will not enjoy. I am going to post a link here that I think you will find useful for activities.

BDSM Scenarios - Ideas to spark your sex life
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm_scenarios.html


As far as how to Dominate her.... well that depends on if you want what your doing to be a bedroom only thing, or take it out of the bedroom to enjoy the extra special feeling people can get from being kinky out in public (even if it is done so that no one but the two of you know what is going on).

I suggest picking up a couple of books.
A different loving written by Gloria Brame is very well written.

and

Screw the roses send the thorns written by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. A very good introductory book to have in the home when discussing what each of you would like to experience.

On top of all that information, we have a VERY well written thread here on the boards....

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4529

The thread discusses many topics that a person just starting their journey into BDSM should know.

I am sure if you have questions as you are taking in all this information, and you ask a question, you will find people here more than willing to help you figure out what you want to know.

Above all else, have fun!

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