About Younger Women

[Xaphan45]

Where do you draw the line? Here in the Bluegrass a girl of 16 has reached the age of consent The is even a movement to have it lowered to 14. It presents several interesting situations for stories

[Barton]

Where do you draw the line? Here in the Bluegrass a girl of 16 has reached the age of consent The is even a movement to have it lowered to 14. It presents several interesting situations for stories

The law is the law. But even so, at sixteen they're still not mentally an adult. Fourteen, thats utterly ridiculous. There is a big difference between a young women and a kid. Eighteen years of existence seems enough time for most people to at least get some sort of a handle on things(including ourselves.). Younger than that seems too much balanced on the side of child rather than adult. Maybe some stories should never be written!
Barton.

[Morrighan]

Never mind stories, changing the age of consent to 14 is utterly ridiculous. As a result of the Supreme Court's legalization of sodomy, ("right to privacy") there is now a court case in the works about a "child's right to privacy". The mother in question found her fourteen year-old daughter in bed with a fifteen year-old boy. The kids told her there was nothing she could do about it and challenged her to call the police. (She did.) If--when--this gets to the supreme court, it will be decided whether or not parents can legally stop their fourteen year-olds from having sex. Beyond ridiculous. I was still screwing up at eighteen, never mind fourteen. And at least at eighteen, I was legally responsible for my mistakes.

Sorry to stage a coup on this thread, but this is one issue that absolutely pushes every single one of my buttons. If anyone wants to debate this, we can take it to another thread.

Morrighan

[abitbent]

Well any relationship can be a risk drake. I just wanted to add one point. I believe that there are two types of poeple in this lifestyle. Those who chose it, and those who have been chosen by it. In other words, D/s is a sexual orientation, and not a choice or fun flavour for some. I like to term those who have this orientation as hardwired. If you find yourself in this category, from my experience, hardwired folk tend to get along better with hardwired folk, and I wonder at such a young age, if this girl knows if she is hardwired or not. If you are a hardwired D/s person, and you come to find out, later in years as the two of you have been together, that she just likes to flavour the relationship with some fun bedroom d/s or her d/s likes were just a curiousity, it could be a very tough time for you both.

It would seem to me, that folks that are a little older, may be gravitating to this lifestyle out of need, and not necessarily out of want, and your chances for a match may be better.

Or... everything i've said is a bunch of crap and she could be the woman of your dreams. LOL Does this help?!?!

Good luck with it.

bent

[Jones, Nikka]

Sorry to stage a coup on this thread, but this is one issue that absolutely pushes every single one of my buttons. If anyone wants to debate this, we can take it to another thread.

Morrighan

There is another thread on this subject somewhere else, Morrighan. I believe is called Age of consent.

Whether or not she may have been attracted to me based on my age is a good point however, I will ask her how old she thought I was when we first met last year. She's very well grounded though- I was surprised she was only 19 since she seems more mature than that.

Asking her where she envisions a relationship going is a good suggestion as well.

I agree drake, age may have not been a factor and the maturity level of each person is probably more important. I was only 18 when I met my boyfriend (he was 8 years older). It seemed a big gap but I never even considered his age when I found myself attracted to him. It was a mental thing. We shared a lot more than an interest in bdsm. Besides, I thought guys my age were so immature!

[BDSM_Tourguide]

There is another thread on this subject somewhere else, Morrighan. I believe is called Age of consent.

There's the Age of Consent thread and then there are two or three others that touch on the subject.

Personally, I'm all for staying within 10 years of my age group. Most of the teens I talk to on the internet do nothing but annoy the crap out of me. There are a few exceptions to this rule, but not many.

The average 18 year old (16 here), even though legal, would not be my first choice of companions. Besides, mature women are better, IMO, because they already know what they're doing, they've been around long enough to do it well and they fucking well know what they want, too. They'll tell you about it, most of the time, if you ask.

[acissej]

I was 19 when I started dating a man who was 42. Neither of us were intentionally seeking for someone of a different age (we were both trying to find someone interested in a long-term BDSM relationship), but we clicked and we both felt we owed it to ourselves to give it a shot. I have to admit, his age terrified me, but I'm all for trying anything once and this was no exception. Neither of us ever imagined the relationship could have succeeded, but, now, more than five years later, we're still together and will be getting married in August.

At times, his age still does terrify me. Twenty-three years is a pretty big difference. And I have to face that, unless I die at an unexpectedly young age, it is highly likely that he'll die twenty-plus years before I do. I'm not saying that to be morbid, just to be realistic.

That's pretty much what went through my head when we started dating. A lot about death. A lot of questions about whether he and I wanted the same things for our future - marriage, kids, a house in the suburbs, etc. I wondered about how my family and friends would react. And I did question if I saw him as a father figure and if I was looking for someone to repair the damage my father did to me. I don't think that was the case, but it really skeeved me out at first when I realized he was only a few years younger than my father.

Drake, no matter how much thought you give this, you'll probably never know for sure where this could go, unless you give her a chance. Despite all the thinking I did, I felt this much older man was worth the risk. No, he's not the man I originally envisioned being with for the rest of my life, but, now, I can't see my life without him. You never know what can happen.

Sorry for babbling,
acissej

[MrJerseyGuy]

This is an old thread but I just ran across it. At 45, I have always been attracted to younger women. My current g/f of a year and a half is 15 years my junior. Granted, 30 is a little different than 19 but...

As far as "taking a chance", we are always doing that. Every relationship can only end on of two ways...either you stay together or you don't. As recently as when I was 38 I dated a 20 year old who had more maturity than half the women I know who are twice her age. I'm sure that's an exception, but you never know who is and who isn't until you try.

Just get ready for the jokes from your friends..."Where you taking her tonight? Chuck-E-Cheese?"