There is not a simple answer to this for me. I can get hard just looking at a nice lady, just getting tied up, just telling my Domme about a fantasy I had. Sex is great in its vanilla forms, and even hotter if it feeds my kink.

I would say that for me, the more confident a woman is with her sexuality and her dominance, the more turned on I am. If I can percieve that she is enjoying it and doing what SHE wants, the hotter it is for me. But it is more the way she moves, her tone of voice, what she says. It isn't what she does sexually.

But that is my perspective on it and my core kink is to be a sexual slave to women, with me ending up denied a lot of the time. I am sure there are many different perspectives that others have.

Cheers!