Controlling premature ejeculation

[Finding_Fantasy]

Now, I know I am a female so I may just be talking completely out of my ass here but perhaps it was the build of of anticipation. Looking forward to it so much and then, when it finally happens, it makes it all that much harder to "contain" yourself.

[sweetplymate]

maybe i am being ignorant or i missed something, but why did everything have to stop just because you came? i would imagine that there would be plenty to occupy your time and keep you (and she) entertained until you were ready to go again...but like i said, maybe i missed something here...

~sp

[redEva]

i don't think you off the base here sweetplymate, at all - actualy that was the first thing that came to my mind... with many other options as to what to do with that mess on her stomach ... but ... well ... may be im out of line as well

[Kelli]

I would have to agree. I'm sure you could've had some fun, but I know what you mean. First time my man and I had sex, he didn't make it all the way in before he came (if I don't have sex once a week I get real tight, and it was a while since he had sex). Masturbating before we played worked well, just leave yourself enough time to get it back up

[MrJerseyGuy]

You guys are absolutely right...I like getting a female perspective on this. Believe it or not, it helps! That's one of the reasons I visit this site everyday!

And yes, it has gone that way at times in the past. It's just that on that particular night I was really in to keeping my myself in a high state of arousal for the duration of the session...I think I just got so annoyed with myself that my mental state came when I did! I was mad at myself!

I guess it's just the dynamics of individual relationships... I have no problems playing for hours without getting off myself. Whatever I am doing to her...pinching, whipping, abusing...most of the thrill for me comes from seeing her get off on it. At the same time, she feels somehow "cheated" and gets upset if I don't cum. If I don't at some point, I feel like I let her down.

I get so caught up in making her cum that sometimes I forget about myself. Does that make me weird?

But in the end I like the "jerk off earlier" idea. (Although it would be hard to do it more than I already do without growing an extra arm!) But I will give it a shot next session.

[Barton]

I get so caught up in making her cum that sometimes I forget about myself. Does that make me weird?

Not weird, just focused. Nothing wrong with that.

Barton

[loonytunes]

Hi, just a suggestion that worked for me when i had the same kind of problem, too much anticipation!!! Its based around the jerk off idea but what you do is, (and it takes a couple of practice tries) jerk off a little a couple of hours before you are liable to be doing anything but stop just at the start of your build up to orgasm so that the result is you just leak a little semen but dont actually experience a full orgasm or ejacualtion, just a mini kind of start of one, then you dont have the turnaround time to worry about, and it "lets the pressure off" if you like, this proved spectacularly successful and really sets you up for a good session a little later, worked for me anyway!!!