Wow, dynamicbuttler, what a great question.
We haven't discussed this topic in awhile.

ShadowyFox, huge hugs and sympathy to you.
You are so right, rape, actual rape, is not pretty.

See: Consider this for discussion on an actual court case
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3244

Are there incidents when a female dominant will rape a male?

If we are talking about a BDSM domme, who plays SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) it would be nice to think that "no, means no" or a safeword means no for those who play that way. Could misunderstandings or deliberate rape happen? Yes.

Fantasy rape? Yes.

Actual rape that's not fantasy play? Yes, again.

There are females who rape males, just like there are males who rape females as well as males on males and females on females.



An estimated 91% of victims of rape are female, 9% are male and 99% of offenders are male. (Bureau of Justice Statistics 1999)

Males are the least likely to report a sexual assault, though it is estimated they make up 10% of all victims. (2005)

This and other stats can be found on the sites below:

http://www.rainn.org/statistics/index.html

http://www2.ucsc.edu/rape-prevention/statistics.html

http://www.oregoncounseling.org/Hand...iolenceMen.htm

Whether the stats were taking in the 1990's or 2000's, they are fairly close in percentages.

And most certainly something to consider.