indeed I (we) were. The three of us were operating without a map. She had talked to me before about a similar fantasy, but never thought it would come true.
On the other side of the coin she had to be careful because of our youth. This was not a grand conspiricy, but rather a series of events. Without my friend egging me on, I doubt I would have had the courage to take the first steps. Without her divorce, she wouldn't have been so needy. It became a "perfect storm" of eros.
I don't advocate the situation to anyone else, just the game.