Quote Originally Posted by BDSM_Tourguide
But why does there have to be a sexual reward, or a sexual undercurrent? Why does it always have to be about the physical? There are plenty of mental aspects that require nothing of the physical whatsoever. I keep using the fetching coffee thing as an example, but I feel it's a good one. The submissive is doing something selfless for her partner that doesn't involve an orgasm from either party. I realize that a blowjob is a fairly selfless act, but it's still a physical, sexual one. It's not an act one would consider to be solely mentally gratifying.

I doubt that made any sense. It's hard to put into words, really.

The difference between Rita fetching you a cup of coffee and a submissive doing it is that Rita's getting paid to fetch your coffee. It's not particularly selfless or submissive, because it's her job. In the same situation, Rita giving you head might be a pretty selfless act on her part, but you paying her to do it would be illegal. LMAO
Hmm I agree with you. I did start to lose my train of thought and I think it was over that issue. There doesn't necessarily have to be any sexual reward but there certainly has to be a reward and psychological fulfillment can be much more rewarding and longer lasting than physical reward.

As for Rita giving head, please let's not go there . A wonderful woman though she is, she is way too old for me even at my age.