Seeking some relationship advice

[His_little one]

Thank you everyone for your insightful replies. I like to think that as Kostly stated- he’s trying to build the vanilla aspect of our relationship and that wanting more than I am getting will make me respect and appreciate it more when I finally do get it. That’s basically my mindset for now-trying to prod things along, yet being patient and letting him control things at his own pace… after all I am the sub right !?

As far as instigating a punishment- there’s a fine line between truly pissing him off and irritating him to the point he will punish me. I’ve tried pushing his buttons and even challenging his threats, but they get me no where. I know there are times I’ve succeeded but he’s always in such a bad mood from working – instead of getting playfully angry and proceeding to punish me he just gets seriously angry and I am forced to back off. I presume he can tell I’m trying to initiate something which might be why he won’t give me what he knows I want.

Thanks again everyone- keep the wonderful insight coming- oh, and I wont settle. My motto is don’t settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you can’t live without.