Finger Anal

[Ranai]

Congratulations to your girlfriend and you on exploring new erotic territory!

To get the definition clutter out of the way, forgive me for stating a number of banalities. I am just not a fan of lumping different things together by association. You are right. Sex techniques are one thing; sexual orientations are another. An interest in a technique does not indicate what gender of sex partners you are attracted to. Every man has an anus with lots of sensitive nerve ends and a prostate. If stimulated, the body reacts. Variation depends on degrees of sensitivity. Some men like to do it, some don’t. Some guys are interested in having a girl touch that spot. Some are interested in having another guy touch that spot. Some are interested in both. Some are not interested at all. Sex techniques are one thing; dominance and submission are another. A particular technique does not necessarily indicate anything about submissive or dominant feelings. In summary: If you like anal play, you like anal play. ‘Straight – bisexual – gay’ is another question. ‘Submissive – switch – dominant – neither’ is another question.

To get back to your personal account, can you make her keep doing this to you? No, you can’t.
But you could ask her. You could tell her how much you enjoyed it, and maybe she’ll agree to experiment some more. Again, whether you as a pair get into any kind of D/s mood while doing this or not is an open question, not a given fact. Just enjoy and see where it leads you.

You write ‘I played it off’ various times. How long have you been together? How well do you know when the other is being coy and playful, or honest? With all this talk of ‘that is not me’ and ‘get it over with’ and ‘revenge’, do you think you got the message across that she was fulfilling a sexual fantasy of yours? That you appreciated it and were happy about it? You need to tell her. Just seeing you come does not mean much. That’s just the inevitable physical reaction. Did you ask whether she enjoyed doing it to you, and what she did not enjoy? Jadetiger and Garrick Bailley make excellent points about the shit aspect. Also, perhaps she did not like your impatience: grabbing your own cock, instead of letting her play with your body at her own pace.

Should you both in addition want to introduce D/s flavour, some ideas:
Ask what position she wants to have you in. Ask where she wants you to put your hands, and keep them there. No jacking off – unless she tells you to. Put yourself in her hands. Let her decide and set the pace. Let her draw the experience out. It might be more fun for you! Either keep your hands where you are told, or maybe she is interested in tieing them instead.
Incidentally, what does your girlfriend like? Do you have an idea how to offer her your services and ask what she wants from you?

And, finally, she enjoys biting your neck? My kind of girl.

Have fun!