Ohhhhh love it when you have an epiphany Oz!
I think that is the key right there.... what is "humiliating" to one may not be to another... as long as the destination is the same the map there doesn't matter! (This of course coming from someone who is normally "map" challenged... lol)We all have our own idea of what is and isn't humiliating, but humiliation play is no more and no less than another means to the same end.
There are many paths and each journey is worthy of our attention.