Quote Originally Posted by NatalieD
It basically means "not BDSM". I don't like it much either, since it implies that both non-BDSM relationships and vanilla ice cream are bland, and in my experience neither of them are if done right.
I don't see that 'vanilla' implies bland - it just doesn't have the extras that is added to others... and there are plenty of people that don't want the extras, in their icecream or their lifestyle.