I second what has been said so far (I know, how booooring), but would like to add a little detail from my (limited) experience. At least it sounds like he is willing to experiment a little, and it might well be that a dom is hiding somewhere in there, waiting to come out (and it could also be that there isn't, but I'd rather look at the bright side). I really believe that feedback is very important -- I mean, in-scene feedback. When we first started out playing and were extremely green behind our ears about everything BDSM he was really very concerned about breaking me. It was a bit tricky to get the idea of "yes it hurts, but I like it that way" through -- once he got used to the idea, though, I tended to get more than what I bargained for Anyway, he needed (and wanted) a hint about what was okay and what not, and regular feedback on how I was feeling about the whole thing (elated, mostly).

That said, let me throw my well-wishes into the pot! I'm crossing my fingers that with a bit of patience and lots of communication this relationship develops into whatever direction you desire! Oh, and -- you love each other...I think with that not so much can go wrong