It looks like all the good advice has been given out already. Curse the transatlantic time differences, you all post while I still in bed

Mirage: BDSM relationships are all about patience and you sometimes have to wait a long long time before you meet the right person. I think anyone on here will tell you this, even the ones who are now lucky enough to have found 'thier one', and many are still looking. It is especially rough on the subs (though male subs get it worst of all... there are more male doms after subs than female Dommes) as there are usually more subs than Doms out there.

You say you will have difficulty finding a new dom in your area? Well, I was going to say that since you are French you could pop across the channel to London easily enough where I know there are a load of good Doms but then I saw you are actually French Canadian and *that* commute could be a little much However, it has been my experience that there are very few places in the world that don't have *any* kinky types living there. The trouble is that they are all hidden - they don't all walk around during their every day lives wearing leather slave harnesses or carrying whips (well, many don't...). If you put out a call here or on any other similar group you will probably find loads in your local area.

You do, however, need to careful of safety and make sure that you do not get caught by a predatory Dom or (worse) a kidnapper, rapist or murderer. Always meet in a public place at first until you get to know and trust them and always have a safe call arranged.

A search online for your area plus the word 'munch' may reveal some things to you. A munch is an informal meeting of like minded kinksters. Usually in a public bar or restaurant, usually vanilla clothing only (no leather etc) and usually no play to take place. Its just a regular meeting of people who have the same interests in order to discuss said interests. Most munches are usually very friendly and accomodating to newcomers - doing things like arranging someone to greet you as you enter and make sure you are introduced to people and do not feel left out.