Quote Originally Posted by casie1124 View Post
While I completely understand what you are saying and where you are coming from, it's not so black and white for me. I take marriage very seriously. I have invested a lot of time and effort into a relationship with someone I do truly care about. Thats hard to abruptly walk away from. At least not until there is open communication about what is really going on and if any compromises are possible. Which is apparently finally happening tonight, thank goodness.
I've been in your shoes, so I know what you're going through. I broke up with my ex-wife/ex-slave after 6,5 years, most of it as married. When we married, she was the woman of my dreams. When we broke up, she wasn't. I had invested a tremendous amount into that relationship, and we both took it very seriously. We had serious plans for what to do when we retired and what to do with the kids we were going to get. Our mistake was that we tried to work out our differences until the love was gone. We ruined what we had. We're not friends now. We're not enemies, it's just meh.... I don't know if it would have been different if we'd broken up when it was salvageable.

Yes, talking is the solution.