I don’t suppose frustration is unique to a D/s relationship. For both parties to remain happy it has to be about give and take – if one partner enjoys giving and the other taking all the time, then that could work but for most of us, I think we end up doing something we’d rather not from time to time, simply because we love them.

It’s at times like this that I try to remind myself exactly what I’ve got. Ok, I’m pissed off because he’s made me do something I didn’t want to do but where would I find another man who can work me quite as well as he can? Do I really want a man I can say ‘I’m not doing that,’ to? And in the end I have to admit that I love the pants off the sadistic bastard