Though you're not specifically asking us gents....the best advice I could give is to take your time.

And treat online the way you would a real life encounter. If soeone comes on srong and pushy, you'd think twice in real life. Ultimately, you can be as easily emotionally hurt online as in real life... and even though you think you have full control physically, a strong-willed but inexperienced dom/me can get you injured online too.

So use your good sense in judging and picking someone who you will, for all intents and purposes, be giving yourself to. I would venture the biggest reason we "lose" members is because of bad results from online relationships.