Quote Originally Posted by Warbaby1943
Malicat,

You haven't said a thing I can dispute except talking to my wife again about this. She has let me know that she isn't at all interested in BDSM and she kind of things I am sick. She doesn't hold it over my head but she just doesn't want anything, including talking about it, to do with it. To her straight sex is all that is important and she enjoys it very much. All in all, I think I'm very lucky to have her but I know this is a taboo subject with her. After 40 years of marriage we've come to know each other pretty well. She just thinks that my BDSM desires are something that are easily controlled. She was correct until very recently. The feelings and discussions that come out of this subject just aren't worth bringing up the subject again with her.

Thanks for the input. I do appreciate it.
Ouch, that's kind of painful in that department, unfortunately. I don't have any really good advice if this is something that is simply taboo between you two. However, if it makes you feel any better, I don't think anyone here would ever think that you are sick in any way. And I would say that all of us, at some point in our lives, have encountered some serious problems in our personal lives due to what we find desireable. So you have company at least!

--Mali