Quote Originally Posted by pettobecaged View Post
I have found that ever since the slave in me was discovered (it was last summer. I was kinky before but didn't realize and/or accept how kinky)anyway - ever since the slave in me was discovered, I have had a hard time coping with real life. I was introduced to the idea of being someone's slave, and then the relationship didn't end up working out. Ever since then, I have felt like someone performed open heart surgery on me, but then never closed me back up and left me on the operating table. It makes me desperate to find a master - and I realize desperation is never helpful. I just wondered if others have felt this way and/or if anyone might have some advice. Thank you!
Be open to opportunities, but as I and others said previously, don't rush into the first attractive situation that rears its head.

This is one of the times volume is helpful. If you converse in several forums, chat rooms, go to some local munches, and maybe even take a class or two from a near-by bdsm support group, you will meet a lot of people... and will learn to detect and identify the trolls, sharks, and wannabes, as well as the genuine article.

Even then, a lot of communication helps... because there must be a hundred different flavors of the genuine article, many of whom you will find to be tasty.