victims of abuse support for submissives

[Trina]

Hi Everyone,

I think abuse comes in many forms. My father was also verbaly abusive and a prefectionist whom nothing was ever good enough. I've recently engaged in a relationship with a man whom, I can never seem to be good enough for. He likes having sex with me just fine, but I feel like I'm trying to please him in every other way; because nothing I do is good enough for him. Strangely, like my father. Mental abuse is very is damaging and almost as bad as physical(though it doesn't compare). It still can mess you up and it's very hard to get away from or out of. I've been physically abused but not in anyway in comparission to this post. It makes me very sad that anyone can be abused in such a way. I'm sorry to hear about your ordeal but glad you posted... I think that people need to know what can go on by meeting a stranger. I've done it too much recently. Thanks for the warning. I will take heed.

[gemmy]

Mental abuse is very is damaging and almost as bad as physical(though it doesn't compare). It still can mess you up and it's very hard to get away from or out of.

Trina, hunnie - all abuse is bad and not to be compared with anything or anyone else's experiences - what damages you, is exactly that ...damage to you simply. Mental abuses can, in cases be worse in different ways luv, they are things you continue to think about yourself long after your tormentor is no longer a part of your life, so you continue their work of damage and in essence pay them homage for their abuse by continuing it. It's easy to say let it go, and unrealistic. It's a matter of working it through to see yourself on the other side, a viable, Valuable person and believing it

Physical abuse can have physical ramifications and manifestations: cutting, hurting yourself in a physical manner

Mental abuse has the same effect in that it too manifests itself mentally: low self image, self esteem, self worth

They are both powerful abuses that hurt us deeply in many many ways - talking and seeking help in even the smallest ways does help build strength and clarity to see the other side.

Some of us will never be 'fixed' but we can go through our lives a little more healthy and break the chain of abuse so it never touches our children or loved ones

Good luck hun and good for you for posting!