Quote Originally Posted by mastersgem View Post
Firstly hun, I wasn't the original quoter on that piece, AdrianaAurora was

Secondly, on that bit about respectful requests - why is it assumed that just because someone has titled themselves "Dom" "Lord" or "Master" must it be assumed that All subs should grant them respect? or have to 'correctly word' anything?? I am not saying we should never be polite because I always am but that has no reference to whom I'm speaking with, sub, Dom, Domme, switch. I just feel it courtesy to be polite with people unless they otherwise give me a reason not to be but to automatically Have to 'correctly word or respectfully request', I don't think so!

Same can be said for all those 'doms' (again, I use the term Very loosely lol) who come at me with "you will address me correctly by calling me Sir, Master (appropriate self given dominant title here). That one makes me want to fall out of my chair laughing every single time! If you have to 'force' people to call you by a Title; you aren't worthy of said Title imo .
Thank you Mastersgem for your thoughts, I have enjoyed reading the debate, which has progressed greatly from its original starting point I feel.

I agree totally with you in regard to doms who seek to be addressed in a specific manner, I would never request anyone to do this and indeed would be uncomfortable with being addressed in any way other than Cravan, as this is my online name, I am no ones master, sir or lord or any such title other than my submissives, it would not be right or fitting for anyone else to address me so.

I also would like to stress that I do not require or instruct my submissive to address me as such, it is for them to ask to do so, I am a firm believer that such things cannot be taken, they can only be given, this is the bond and relationship between submissive ( I do not personally like the word sub) and dom.

I was being somewhat tongue in cheek with my statement in relation to polite requests, however flippancy removed, irrespective of the nature of the culture of BDSM common courtesy should be the norm and not the exception, as such, yes if some one requests something from me I would expect a degree of politeness to accompany any said request. I know that I would ask in a similar manner, irrespective of the status of the person that I was speaking with