(Disclaimer - in no way am I trying to imply that Dommes and male subs are unnatural, or illigitimate, or anything else bad. I am just making gross generalizations.)[/QUOTE]
i actually agree with all that is said so far: even being a domme
I do feel that the natural thing for men and women is to have that headship arrangment. unfortunatly in this society women are trained not to be dominated and men not to dominate. so we have natural tendencies and needs that most do not know how to fill, so that brings us to why i am a domme and from some i have talked to seems to be the same. For me i cannot fully submit to someone and refuse to now. There are too many people (men and women but in this case i will speak of men) that do not know how to take the lead. as it was brought out this is a huge responsiblitiy and for those who are commanding personalities, if they do not know how to lead, they can and very often do hurt those they try to control. Controlling somone, having them submit to you is a rush, but unfortunaltly when a man gets this rush and does not respect it and the power he is given i can be very harmful for the one submitting to him.
Couple one or two experiences like that and a life time of society and family teaching you to "be independant" "stand on you own" "never listen to a man" and you have one whom is affectionatly know now as FrozenGrapes
all in all i do believe that this lifestyle does infact mirror what Jesus taught about having a head and that one caring for his own and the submissive one the be "like a fine piece of pottery" useful and important to the household but also a beautiful centerpiece for the master to cherish... And how much care and concern would you give a fine crystal vase? would you not protect and cherish it? make sure it is well taken care of? and what is a master or mistress but nothing more than one charged to care for something precious? be it male or female?