Quote Originally Posted by katie_21
The tighter you hold the leash, the more they will chew on it....lol
Ok I'll start with the fact that at least 100 people have called us unreasonabley protective. You know what though, they never lived with us. Our two kids both in college now were raised with a 24/7 stay at home mom. So we don't have a big savings for retirement.
The main thing we tried to do is not make it a leash. We always explained why we did, what we did, then we tried to make it reasonable for them.
We tried to make home a place everyone wanted to come. You can play here, you can be loud, you can be a kid.
It amazed me when the skanky dressed kids came here, the OLD young ones and they would turn back into children for a short time. Play with Barbies, bake cookies, jump on the trampoline and even play video games and watch old movies.
If your going to have children you have to devote your life to them.
I never shied away from hard questions, I always talked about sex, about drugs. We have lots of examples in the extended families. Who doesn't.
Raising kids is hard work, really hard work, and I'm glad I did it, but I glad I'm done. Now I have to trust them to do what they need to do in their life and not judge them.