I don't cum easily. I faked it all the time when I was married so he'd hurry up and get the hell off of me. *lol* When I started a BDSM relationship, I was amazed that I had an orgasm the first time we had sex. Of course, I was disappointed when it didn't always happen. I faked it sometimes because I was "this" close and just couldn't, even though he was doing the same thing that got me off before. Then, he got smart. He made me tell him when I was cumming, and I'm a terrible liar so......I had to start telling him when I couldn't. Seriously, I don't know how that man managed to hold off as long as he did....heh heh heh. Anyway, I now have no problem telling someone when it's just not working.