I do not look down on switchers, in general. There was a time when a few switches were around in the scene, and that was fine with me (I am not much of a scene person, but hubby is).

What I find aggravating is the new trend (at least hereabouts, in Germany), that all of a sudden the majority of people seem to think EVERYBODY is basically a switch, and they try and force that opinion unto others like me, who has not a switching bone in her body.
They are extremely patronizing, and they (not that I had asked their opinion) run around, announcing everyone who does not switch is "suppressing" that other half, and has a problem, and should try it, or rather, the partner one is with should let his partner try it.
Itīs crackbrained. And I do not believe half of the switches who run around nowadays are for real.
A huge load of those people I met were sub men who found no Domme, and thought it a smart move to pretend to be a switch (who just happens to need being dominated in 99 out of a 100 times in upcoming play scenes). Duhhh.

I personally am not a switch and cannot begin to understand what it must be like. I think it must be confusing in a relationship - how do they go about deciding who is the top and who the bottom all the time?

Hubby spoke with some switches, and they explained that their "state" depends on the person they are with - some people evoke their dominance, others evoke their submission, so itīs not a problem in a relationship as things are settled.

But even if it is like that, I think it must be hard to be fulfilled in a relationship where you get only half of what you want.
The idea of playing outside the relationship is not an option for everyone, either (it certainly wouldnīt be ok for me).