Is is possible?

[shayna{L_D}]

I'm so glad you asked this question. I am NOT a "sharer", hell i dont even like to share my personal things much less my heart/Master/Other Half/ <--insert cute name here. But i am now in a poly relationship and i am finding it SO very hard to deal. I find that jealousy creeps in way more then it should and it makes me question; Him, me, and her. The way we work is weird. She is dominate over him, and he is dominate over me. Like a trickle down effect. But still the jealous factor is still there, and its something that i NOW look at as a good thing. I used to get very bent out of shape about it and all my insecuirites came out and i just made the situation all that much more worse on myself. But, like i said i now look at it like a good thing, something to help me work on my jealous issues, something to make me stronger, and something to just help me over all. Its like making lemonade out of lemons

anyway, if you are okay with it, and set out rules and what not, and he is fine with it then go ahead, more power to you. Just please understand that just becuase in theory you are okay with it that your feelings may change when you see him with her.

Is there any way for you to say 'id like to bow out of this poly relationship, im not comfortable' ?

also would you have any hand in what was going on, like Domming her, or submitting to her? Or would you just be watching? Or would he just be watching and Domming you two at the same time? Sorry if these are personal questions its just..it plays a big role in how you would feel emotionally.

im not saying i am the best advice giver on this subject, but i have warmed up to it, in a harsh way. Almost like stepping into a burning hot shower. But i have talked to many openly poly people on this library and got great advice. I also keep a journal, for when im feeling depressed or trapped to just let out my feelings and just get it all out, plus i can talk to my "Master" about it also.


Just keep open communication.

wow im rambleing. Sorry if it didnt help. Good luck

[tommiecat]

"Is there any way for you to say 'id like to bow out of this poly relationship, im not comfortable' ?

also would you have any hand in what was going on, like Domming her, or submitting to her? Or would you just be watching? Or would he just be watching and Domming you two at the same time? Sorry if these are personal questions its just..it plays a big role in how you would feel emotionally."

We've agreed on him being the only Dom in the relationship, I have no want or need to Dom over another myself, Tho if the question came up to her possibly Takeing a tiny bit of control over me, I would not object to it totally..I would try it and if I did'nt like I would be able to back out of it any time

Same with if my feelings change towards the whole situation, Any of us would be able to back out of the relationship at any point, One of the major rules if someone isnt happy and it cant be resloved then we end it...with no hard feelings.

Were just trying to keep it happy, kind of like a kid testing the water with there toes for the first time *giggles*

And Thank you