I only started chatting in 1999 on a vanilla site that had cams and met some really nice as well as interesting people. Unfortunately Yahoo and msn closed its fight and booting rooms and a lot of those people came into our chat and took over. After persisting with it for a number of years I left the site after a woman I new was blackmailed into camming for a guy. I went through a number of chat sites including armature porn chat sites that were monitored and always found I was respected as a guy but it never felt like home but it introduced me to submissive women in real life BDSM relationships. After chatting with them even tho I had a lot of different ideas that I thought were "bad for a guy to be thinking of, I realised I was into kink and my thoughts and desires were for a lot of people just normal. from there I looked for chats and forums that held BDSM content. So here I am, lol.

I have been interested in BDSM now for a yea and met a sub recently that didn't workout. I've also been to my first play party, tho only to socialise (I have found I am far too new to participate in a lot of activities safely just yet).

I found a sub recently and spent some time with her and experimenting with bondage and rope. Even tho The sub and I didn't work out (we just ended up having too many differences) It was a good learning experience as it taught me to avoid trying things that A I'm not ready or lack experience in and to build trust with what we did do.

My main interest seams to be bondage. In particular rope bondage and suspension. Before I ever tied a sub I researched what rope can do to the nervous system as well as respiratory system constriction and affects of blood restriction to limbs.
As a dominate I take on the responsibility for my submissive (regardless of if its just a play partner or my One). The responsibility for her safety is in my hands. I need to know what I'm doing with my ropes and where they are safe to be laid as incorrect position of rope can lead to permanent loss of use in a limb.

The time we have while looking for our One can be a productive time even if its lonely. It allows us to research things of interest and become better acquainted with the things we wish to try, It gives us time to become ready for our One so we are not confused with the wannabes making us stand out further to our One.

I find I'm chatting less and less due to my desire to find my one as well as looking into things I enjoy. These include fisting and forced orgasm's and love watching a girls face as she comes and I try to make her come as many times as I possibly can (the sub I was with said she lost count at 20) and don't mind spending a few hours doing it. Objectification is another line of thought that interests me.

I hope in time I will be in a long term relationship that is fun and satisfying for both of us.