Have you asked him what he wants? Does he want to be "ravaging" you or does he try because it is what *you* want? Not every man wants to be the ravager, and there are quite a few who want to be ravaged themselves.

If he does, have you tried to start out with baby steps first? Most people don't go from 0 to 60 instantly.

If your fantasies aren't mutually compatible, it doesn't mean that it is hopeless, just that getting the satisfaction you want will be a lot harder.