A bad habit

[Flaming_Redhead]

It might help you to discuss what the actual purpose of using "sir" as a form of address is for. Is he trying to help you be more polite in society or the lifestyle? Is he trying to make you show him respect? Does he just want you to do it because everyone else is doing it? Is he into speech training/speech restriction?

If it's strictly out of respect for him, it may take awhile to feel like saying it, otherwise known as having earned your respect.

[StormKat]

If it's strictly out of respect for him, it may take awhile to feel like saying it, otherwise known as having earned your respect.

I completely agree that respect has to be earned, including the title "Sir". I've encountered a number of wannabe doms who seem to feel that being called "Sir" is a right just because they declare themselves to be dominant. The few times I've called someone Sir have been because he'd earned that level of respect in my eyes and the word just came out as what felt right at the time and in those circumstances. I think that maybe if it's a struggle to call someone "Sir", it's a sign the situation's not yet at that point.

[Belgarold]

I completely agree that respect has to be earned, including the title "Sir". I've encountered a number of wannabe doms who seem to feel that being called "Sir" is a right just because they declare themselves to be dominant. The few times I've called someone Sir have been because he'd earned that level of respect in my eyes and the word just came out as what felt right at the time and in those circumstances. I think that maybe if it's a struggle to call someone "Sir", it's a sign the situation's not yet at that point.

I don't really mind being called Sir by a new sub or someone else's sub, but it does embarrass me a bit. I feel like I haven't earned the honor yet and it feels a bit awkward to me.

And even if I earn it I don't necessarily demand it. I can tell in other ways that a sub is giving me the respect I deserve. (And I, of course, deserve it only if I keep earning it, lol.).