Like with all things in life, bdsm or otherwise, you get what you put into it.

Ive done both types myself alltough I was admitably sceptical when I first started as I was many years in real life prior and never imagined online would be "all that".

The following is a post of mine on a similar topic:


"Many here dont know or remember what kind of cyberslut i was when i first got here, whisper whisper whisper, i used to be allways in whisper lol

i have a certianly seen and done all of those online catagorial discriptions myself, i didnt classify them the same way exactly, i used to call it the five forms of cyber sex or online bdsm

1) foreplay in the lobby: hi how are you today, nice weather, yes, oh really, cool... ... ... etc etc etc ... ... flirting... ... teasing... ... .... i looked at your profile ...etc...etc...etc,..... want to pm?
(or coure if its a "Troll" you usually skip straight to whisper with: "hey baby your hot get on your knees slut" unless its a shy troll with manners than its in whisper again out of the blue with:" mind if we pm?" LOL, or the veteran troll, that says nothing much in chat to anyone but follows the rules at least and asks permission to pm in the lobby first. giggles

2) First person action/cyber fun:this ussually happens in whisper or private chat, or with the pic sharing web cam crowd on yim or sumthing, this is where i as a submissive, preform in real life what i am told to do (sans web cam in my case), for the girls with web cams i might remind you to charge some money or sumthin i mean sheesh i dont do even close to any real sex at my nite job dancing and i make bank! (also btw the flicker girls make mad cheddar for what your doing for free) not to mention your cam session may be streamed by the guy all over the internet or sold by him at a profit lmao in a sad way, now dont get me wrong this form of cybersex is in my opinion the most fun if you have a real good dom giving directions that has patience and understands you type better with two hands, i know more than a few that excelled at this type of dominance, some of the tasks they order are highly erotic, and the ones that know thier business are great, the vast majority of them however are ussually lacking in imajination, and thats where reverse mentoring comes in (some call it topping from the bottom) but i am sorry if a guy obviously doesnt know what he is doing here then he needs some help (carrot and stick as my owner calls it)

3) fantasy role play real time online: now this one is just like reading a dirty story, but getting to participate at the same time, it takes time, and is sometimes done in the forums, but if you have three hours to blow its worth it with a well versed dom/domme into doing short scenes in chat (whisper private room, etc) and some times rather exciting, especially if you can type with one hand real good like me

4)poof, pretend we are in real life right now: not big on scene discriptions but still wanna have story orientated cyber sex? then this is for you, its like poof , majically you pretend to be in the other personas pressence, some do it in the lobby, whisper, open chat, dungeon, where have you, you simply describe your actions in text, just please dear lord for any others in the lobby that have to see your posts, try to be more descriptive instaed of just "this slut obeys" or "i suck sirs cock" or" ohhhh omg ohhh ohhh sir mmmph" etc etc winks

5)forum/ email role plays: cyber sex for the people that dont mind taking a long long time to get the job done, again this form is like other roleplays, and is even more like actual writting your part of a story as opposed to any actual roleplay, so the name is kinda ironic, but for the "writers" this form of erotisim is very fufilling and gives a sence or permacy, but in my opinion is just as much cyber sexing as first person or any of the above catagories

Sufice to say the only form bdsm or any sex takes isnt just physical penetration in real life eaither, from a knowing glance and flirting to between the sheets the mating rituals of earthbound humans are complex to say the least with many different perspectives and diffenitions and of course human nature is to self justify guilty pleasures in many many ways and to downplay there signumancy

food for thought for all you that think cybering with another while you have an online only dom (which some find laughable to begin with- I used to be one of them till I discovered its allmost just as much fun) or real life dom is wrong : each time you read a dirty story (let alone roleplay etc) your having sex with the authors/doms mind, even if its indirect, especially if your personifing yourself into the main characters role, cyber sex and bdsm has many many forms just like real life, WEG