well, it's different for what i'm doing and who i'm doing it with. i wont play with anyone alone who i don't know. i do consider playing with new people in public with one of my close friends watching. my friends know me and know what they enjoy. One knows bondage and would watch if i wanted to get roped by someone new, One knows impact play, and so on.

Now about scenes with the people i know, IF i have any thing that is a limit or something they should know (aka my knee got hurt, please watch it and give me more breaks). Sometimes for me things change, they're not limits but how i feel that day. One example would be i usually don't have a problem playing naked in private, (i wont play alone) but a few things happened and i didn't feel like being completely naked one night, i told Him in all seriousiness i dont want X to come off. and we worked around that. i don't view that being a bad submissive, i had a mental issue with my body that day and that's why i talk before all my scenes. if i cant tell someone what's bothering me or if i'm not feeling good, then i shouldn't be playing with them.

btw i'm just talking for scenes, not for relationships. . .i'm not the relationship type or greatest advice giver on them at the moment.

~j~