Demanding jobs and BDSM

[symphony]

No serving and such. Life will always come before BDSM, for both of us.

i diddnt mean that bdsm was more important than work, kids, school obviously lol. Im not very good at explaining things im afraid but that statement was ment much less litrally and more mentally than it came across! But as i have kids I really feel the need to stress that, that isnt the way I feel at all!

I suppose its just a mindset i have that helps me deal with the whole too tired too stressed thing. If i look at it like thats the way i always am and we always feel then it dosnt feel so bad if we arnt specifically doing anthing expressing it that week. Where as i find it harder to deal with if i feel like I am always in work mode, and its just gone.

the difference between putting a 'normal' mask on to go outside and deal with life, and taking it off in the bedroom and putting a 'bdsm mask' on in the bedroom. (not that there is anything wrong with the latter! its a personal thing) if i feel like its always there then i dont panic so much if it seems to have gone away for the moment due to circumstance.

I know that its probably not that relevent to you as i thought you were a 24/7 type when i read your post but at least now i dont feel like people will read mine and think that i think that my romantic life is more important than my kids and his work as they always come first!