i am very sorry for your pain. if someone outed me i would be very upset. my Master and i have some mutual friends who are into one form of kink or another and for different reasons W/we have not told them about O/our life together and it would be very hurtful for either of us to do that to the other one. cheating is just wrong as well. i agree that sometimes being out of a relationship enables us to see how bad it was when in it. i hope you find someone who is worthy of your trust and affection,

badkitty