Thanks Denuseri,

Your answer makes perfect sense.

however, it is a little daunting for a newbie to post in the forums and to participate in chat. I'm trying and so far had a wonderful welcome from everyone involved.

As i said - i'm still hopeful, but it seems to be a steeper uphill battle for male subs than female, so not surprisingly, fewer of us find what we are looking for here.

Don't misunderstand me - this is not a complaint, just an honest newbie male sub response to the question that was asked to start the thread.

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