I completely agree with this from a submissive's point of view. I was trained for one year by a Dominant who focused mainly on His ideals and His beliefs of what a sub should be, but I never really broke down the barriers into who I am as a submissive in all that time. I am absolutely blessed now to serve a Master who knows my every thought before I do and understands how my mind works in ways no one ever has. He anticipates my reactions and uses them to help me learn more and more every day. Any and everything He does has a purpose, and He does not tell me until after the completion of the task/exercise what that purpose was. It is how a Master gauges his submissive/slave's reactions and level of understanding. If He is truly meant for you and you are truly meant to belong to Him, then all of those things will click into place. He will have all of your needs well in hand, physical, emotional and everything that lies between. But you must never forget He is in control always, and you have to trust Him implicitly and never question His commands. They ALWAYS have a purpose.I believe that submissives need to be pleasured in whatever ways they have dreamt about since first touching themselves in order to fully, completely, and totally submit to me, without holding back.. That is what I want, anyway.. The look in her eyes when you know she would do absolutely anything I ask without question..
I realize that all of the things I am saying are based on my experiences and that I am fortunate enough to be owned by a Master who holds all of the ideals I mentioned above. It is my very strong belief that if you can't trust your Sir/Master enough to completely and totally put yourself in their hands, you will never fully recognize your potential as a submissve. It is His place to help you set and achieve your goals, but it is also a journey for you B/both. He is learning about you as well, so the communication is key for it to work.
If this is a long distance partnership, Do you keep a journal for him or blog? Master has me write in a journal daily and send him the scanned documents (I prefer to write by hand rather than type as I am old fashioned that way! :P ) This allows Him unfiltered insight into my thoughts and concerns, all my questions and how I feel. This deepens the bond between Master and I and ensures I really can hold nothing back from Him. (as if I would try!)
I truly hope all my rambling made some sense! I am always open to improvement and appreciate any comments or suggestions. That is, after all, the only way to truly learn! If you ever want to talk, corinya, though I know your last post was several months ago, please feel free to PM me anytime. I would love to hear how things are going for you these days.
Peace!
~Master's muse~