victims of abuse support for submissives

[denuseri]

well here goes

i have noticed that there are a lot of victums of abusive relationships(some even on this site), sexual and otherwise, and that there are a wide variety of support groups out there for all the different types of victums ,,,,except one group, ours

where is the help for submissives that have been abused?

its right here, we are the ones that should support our own

most all suport groups outside the comunity dont address the needs of our own people, in other words they are vanilla, and lack the understanding that we as submissives and doms/ dommes share in our way of life

i am not advocating the exclussion of outside scorces for support(in fact i strongly reccomend seeking medical and spiritual support) i am, simply saying that we have a unique perspective to help abuse victums within our range of expertise

that is the reason i am posting this thread,

part of my own therapy was seeking out this site so i could talk with people within my peer group that would accept my way of life

yes i was a victum of sexual abuse in a bdsm context,
it has taken many years of hardship to reach the place i am at today, to be able to speak and share about it with others and i am very thankful to the people at this site for all the catharic help they have given me

yet i feel that as a recovering abuse victum its not enough that i help out the occasional girl or two i come accross in chat or the forums thats on the cusp of abuse or has been abused,(my owner supported me, who supports those subs without owners)

thats why i have posted this thread,, anyone that wishes should reply here with thier story of recovery, questions,or conserns,advice etc: or pm me if you wish for privacy i will make every effort possible to help you

perhaps if we all work together in this we may be able to really help a lot of submissives that are having trouble recovering from thier tramatic experiences


:my ordeal:lasted for three months, i suffered through pure hell at the hands of a pedator i wouldnt call a dom and his accomplices that i went to meet from an online chat,(not this one), without taking the proper precautions:
it took six months of corrective surgey to physically repair what was done to me, including dental work etc, i shall never have children because of them, it took allmost six more months before i could even step outside my house on my own, let alone be touched or have sex etc, i am very lucky to be alive, with my owners help ( he has litterally saved me) doctors , therapists, support groups, and this site, including many individuals here have helped me a great deal

i am not telling you this seeking sympathy, i am doing this for the benifit of others that have been abused, if they read it they may garner some hope of recovery for themselvesso i know from personal experiences what kind of things some of you that have been abused are going through

i once heard a dom refer to us as "the broken ones" well we dont have to remain broken,, we can heal, we can be fixed, we can recover, grow, and thrive (even enjoy bdsm again) with the right help,and the best help we may find just might be from each other


hugs and kisess for all conserned,