I was speaking with a submissive yesterday. Things went well for quite some time, we were both becoming interested in the other, but then things fell apart. At the time I couldn't have told you why.
Later when I thought about it, I realized my confidence had faltered when I learned she had many years experience in the lifestyle , while I've only had a few. She has had partners serious about BDSM, while I have only found timid ones, who were unwilling to push themselves, or me.
That I let this get in the way disturbs me, it seems a catch 22 situation, and I am not sure what to do about it, or if there is anything which can be done.

Thoughts?