Kink and Fetish

Kink—the various types of play that are enjoyed under the umbrella of BDSM. Examples include flogging/spanking/caning/paddling, edge play, CBT/breast torture, and watersports.
Fetish—generally a term used to describe much narrower focused kink, such as latex, rubber, PVC, boot licking, lingerie, and foot licking/worship.

Age Play —ranges from infantilism to adolesentism. This type of play involves the submissive role playing and taking on the behaviorisms of a child to varying degrees. Usually the Dominant plays the role of the parent.
Anal —anal play includes rimming, licking and the use of toys for penetration. Anal play is safe if done hygienically (maintaining cleanliness of toys, etc.) but often requires a longer adjustment period then vaginal, oral or other types of play because the anal cavity and sphincter are not well adapted naturally to penetration.
Animal Play—this type of play involves the submissive taking on the role of an animal to some degree. Animals often role played are dogs/puppies, cats/kittens and ponies. There are various toys (such as tails, ears, etc.) that can enhance the effect of the role play. Also, type-specific implements and equipment(i.e. crop or riding whip, bridle, for pony play; dog dishes, bed for dog play; litter box, kitty bed for cat play) are available both at BDSM-specific stores and mainstream pet stores.
Dog Play—extends from puppy to house dog to show dog and beyond. Originally prevalent in male gay leather society, dog play has expanded into the mainstream BDSM community.
Cat Play—most commonly a female submissive takes a role of a kitty, though by no means is cat play exclusive to females. Other types of cats role played are large cats such as tigers and lions.
Pony Play—one of the oldest, most well established types of animal play. Pony play has an extensive community within the greater BDSM community, including international competitions and races, specific equipment and gear, and training.
Bestiality—the use of actual animals by humans for sexual activity
Blood Play—the use of knives, needles or other devices used to draw blood. Often described as vampire play, blood play can involve the drinking, licking, or otherwise intaking the blood of one by a partner to create an erotic atmosphere.
Biting—commonly used technique by a Dominant on the body of a submissive to mark territory or for the submissive to derive erotic pleasure. Places commonly bitten include inner thighs, ears, breasts/nipples, cock, and neck.
Body Modification (piercings, tattooing, branding) –ranges from the addition of a mark of some form to the body (simple tattooing, piercing, branding) to actual appendage or physical body modification.
Body Writing—usually done with a sharpee or dry erase marker, though sometimes with an ink based pen, body writing occurs most prevalently on the submissive’s body by the Dominant. Writing can be humiliating in nature to the submissive, and often will be used to increase the erotic humiliation of a scene or task.
Breast Play/Torture—includes slapping, biting, binding, whipping/flogging/paddling the breasts to create erotic pain. Most commonly done by a Dominant to a submissive female, though other situations may arise as well. The biggest safety risk is damaging the mammary glands, capillaries and tissue, so expert caution and technique are required. If blood is drawn, or swelling, bruising or coldness of the skin occurs, the breast play should be cease immediately and attention provided.
Breath Play—play controlling the amount of oxygen that one receives. Often done with choking or blocking the nasal or oral cavities (such as by the use of hoods or masks), breath play can be an incredibly erotic experience. The most important safety concern is to ensure the person to whom oxygen is being restricted is never in danger of being short of a basic level necessary for brain function over a long duration. Breath play should only be attempted by those trained in such play and symptoms of breath shortage.
Asphyxiation—a type of breath play in which all or most oxygen is restricted for a longer duration of time. It is an extremely risky type of breath play and should only be undertaken by experienced, knowledgeable players.
CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) —associated with male cock and balls, this can include anything from rope bondage to slapping/flogging/beating to milking to other forms of pain & torture. The safety component is important to remember with CBT, as long term loss of blood to the area (i.e. too tight of bondage for too long) or long term forced blood increase (i.e. maintaining hardness) can become painful & lead to medical complications. Analogous to breast/nipple torture.
Chastity—can be used for either males or females to prevent touching & use of sexual organs. For males, the most common form of long term chastity enforcement is a chastity device that encapsulates the cock & balls, preventing the cock from hardening. Usually this chastity device is made from either metal or plastic. For females, chastity belts are available to prevent any touching of the vaginal, clitoral or anal areas. If properly used, chastity devices can be worn for long periods of time.
Corseting –commonly used historically to tighten a woman’s waistline, corseting has found an erotic home in BDSM. Corsets range from fabric (such as silk) with very little boning, to much more structured corsets designed to prevent most movement. Corsets can be worn for a fashionable statement or functional purpose, depending on the type of material the corset is worn out of. Use caution when starting any kind of longer term corseting plan, and ensure any corset worn is properly fitted to the individual’s body.
Denial—denial is commonly used by Dominants to prevent erotic pleasure for their submissive. Online, orgasm denial is a commonly used technique, though varies in efficiency depending on the relationship and partners.
Electro Play—most commonly done with a TENS unit or a violet wand, electro play delivers a small electric shock to a certain area of the body, which results in an erotic sensation to the person feeling the shock. A TENS unit generates on electric pulse that radiates through various “sticky pads” applied to different locations on the body, whereas a violet wand is a single application of the electric shock.
Enemas—enemas are used for 2 different functions: hygiene and play. Enemas can serve to provide “cleaner” anal play (such as fisting), and they can also be used as an exercise in muscle control, by forcing an enema to be held for a period of time. Enemas may interfere with normal bodily functions, so take care in use and do not use too frequently. Enemas can be store-purchased in specified quantities, or they can be created with warm water & an enema bag.
Edge Play—living life on the edge, BDSM style. Edge play means different for different people, but generally is thought of as those activities that are akin to vanilla edge activities (skydiving, base diving, etc)—it may include things like total suspension, some types of knife & blood play, etc.
Edging— teasing and tantalizing a person to the edge of orgasm without taking them over.
Erotic Massage—massage that creates an erotic effect.
Exhibitionism—partially or fully exposing your body in public in a sexual nature for the erotic pleasure of the exposure.
Feminization/Sissification/ Cross-dressing—the art & pleasure of gender bending. This can include the forced feminization or sissification of a male, such as forcing a male submissive to wear lacy panties or a dress and talk in a feminine manner; or cross-dressing, where a male voluntarily dresses as a female for erotic pleasure. There is some gender-play with females, but the most common is with male submissives.
Fire Play –the use of heated or flaming objects to create an erotic effect. For instance, heated glass cups are often used for cupping, candles are often used for wax play.
Fisting—the insertion of the entire fist/hand into the vaginal or anal cavity. It should be started slowly & proceed with great caution: too abrupt of insertion, or lack of lube, can result in rupture of the anal sphincter muscle or vaginal tissue & lead to medical complications.
Foot Worship Fetish—includes licking, cleaning, sucking or otherwise expressing worship of the feet. Can be with heels, boots, other shoes, stockings, or other shoes or footwear on the feet.
Humiliation & degradation—humiliation and degradation are often used interchangeably. However, degradation is declining one to a lower level, whereas humiliation is the utilization of an action or word to elicit embarrassment that is erotic. Both may be used during play if properly presented, but it is imperative the limits of such activities are discussed prior to engaging in them. Humiliation may be verbal (ex. name calling such as “you dirty whore”), physical or mental.
Implements—almost any type of implement (wooden spoon to single tail whip) can be used during play to create an erotic pleasure in the person. Implements must be carefully selected, tried, and utilized properly. It is important never to hit above the neck, over the kidneys (on the back), spine, sides of the hips, and anywhere that the bone is close to the skin. Over time, one can be conditioned to except heavier & longer sessions, but it is best to start slow & short, to ensure adequate time for the reaction of the body to be observed & treated. Implements may leave bruising or welts, but should not generally break the skin.
Hand Spanking—the most common, easily preformed type of play because you already own the implement and it may not require much additional training. It is effective on creating a sting & redness at the site of impact.
Household Implements—the most common implements used because most people have them. A wooden spoon or spatula properly applied can have a delicious erotic effect. Watch for sharp edges on the implements, or anything that might break the skin when applied.
Crops, Flogging, Paddling, Belts/Straps, Whips—these implements all take some expertise to use. It is best to do thorough research on them, purchase one, and practice before using on your partner. Remember: quality doesn’t come cheap. Some bruising or welts may occur and remain for days following the play, but if the skin is broken, or bruising doesn’t subside, seek medical attention.
Caning—canes can be made from rattan, fiberglass or other materials. All canes should pass the Bend Test: you should be able to make a full circle bend with the cane and touch end to end. Use canes with GREAT care. Though they can create beautiful lines and a sensational sting, they can also cause great damage if they hit the wrong location or in the wrong manner.
Latex Fetish—includes latex, rubber, PVC & other similar materials. Fetish may be to touching, wearing, looking at, or playing with such materials.
Lingerie Fetish—the erotic enjoyment of watching another in lingerie of any variety. May be male or female. It is considered a fetish when the erotic enjoyment reaches a level exceeding that of routine pleasure.
Medical Play—role playing a medical exam, or utilizing medical instruments during play.
Scat—play involving human feces. As a safety note, it is important to ensure healthy, hygienic practices if you are involved with this type of play.
Snuff—a desire to fantasize of play resulting in the death of the submissive.
Toilet Training (catheters) —can extend from having bathroom privileges monitored or supervised by the Dominant, to utilizing diapers. Toilet training is a common humiliation play element. It is important to remember that health and hygiene come first and should be discussed and monitored at all times.
Vaginal Play (labia stretching, vaginal pumping) —these types of vaginal play are more extreme and may result in permanent alteration of the vagina.
Water Sports—piss play. Water sports can include being peed on, peeing on someone, drinking, sucking, licking or otherwise coming in contact with your piss or your partner’s. Piss play is safe, as pee is sterile, but it is always important to observe normal health measures when engaging in the exchange of any bodily fluids.