A lot of gays claim they can always spot another however hard they're trying to pass for straight, Do you feel you can spot another Dom or sub when they're not flagging in any obvious way?

I've felt for a long time that I have a hunting instinct for subs, but I haven't had many chances to check it. The one that sticks in my memory was when I joined a new counselling group, and as one woman introduced herself the buzzer went off in my mind, and I thought, her, eh?

She didn't say anything to suggest it, and I didn't investigate, because it's very bad form to hit on your counselling partners. But I was open about my own sexuality within the group: and months later, she phoned me because she was getting intense masochistic fantasies, and I was the only person she knew who wouldn't think she was sick or crazy.

I was glad to help: but I also enjoyed a little private smirk of "I knew that!"