vanilla relationship, but i NEED more!

[toy_k]

Been with him for six years and i love him. I personally only discovered BDSM a year ago and was very happy to find a word for what i am and a way of expressing it, using it, exploring it and fulfilling myself. I kept it hidden from him for about 3 months but he discovered a dom that i was chatting to online and asked why i couldnt just come to him about, and he was right. I was worried i would scare him away. I showed him the "training of O" website and he didnt have much to say, its all very different for him. But the bulge in his pants told me it sparked something inside him. He has tried to dom me but its just, well not much at all. He is much more sexually immature than me and has no fantasies for himself so i am afraid he just doesnt know what to do, since he has not tapped into his dom side (that he may not even have). I have talked to him about my desires, but only about safe BDSM, i want more hardcore but if he cant handle the light stuff yet...i just dont know what to do cause i would never leave him but i dont trust myself when my biggest desire right now is soo unfulfilled.