My point. Your relationship is what you make it to be. Not what others think it should be.
Exactly.

I think every relationship is as unique as the individuals who make it up, and sometimes thinks like labels just get in the way. For example, I am an impatient person, and my sub has infinite patience with no bounds (one reason we go very well together). If we are in a group of people and I start getting riled up, he'll reign me in by putting his hand on my shoulder, and in that little moment you might say he's dominant over me, as I allow him to control my actions. I love that, we need that, it makes both of us better people and who cares what you call it when both of us are happy?