Thanks so much for all the posting...
Talking would be good. We talked this weekend. Tried to.
And I am going to try, very, very hard to try to get him to combine fingering and oral. I've asked before, but hearing it from someone else has given me more confidence in asking again. And forced orgasms sounds like something that would suit both of us just dandy... *falls over and drools at the thought* But he's hard to suggest things to or request things from.
And I'm definitely trying to point out, so they sound conversational and not like suggestions, that there are many tantra techniques that could be helpful, or at least entertaining.
I so appreciate being able to get these thoughts out and get feedback on them. Much appreciated everyone. Wish me luck!