I don’t know about other sites to recommend, but I just felt compelled to say that you should not do anything you do not wish to do. No one has the right to push you past where you want to be. There is nothing wrong with not enjoying the more extreme parts of this lifestyle. In fact, learning about yourself and knowing your own limits is all good.

I do think there are a lot of folks who are into the more mild aspects of BDSM. Perhaps they do not call attention to themselves, and so are not as easily spotted. There is nothing wrong with being extreme, and neither is there anything wrong with enjoying something mild. You are not weak and your post did not make me think you are sad. I thought you brave to post your thoughts. Good luck to you in your journey, and I hope you find it fun along the way.
thank for your kind words and i will keep that in mind for now.

This one is good, Fetlife is good, and mydugneonspace is good. The last seems to be having an inactivity problem though.
and thank for your post aswell i will keep those sites in mind