help me become a slut

[Rapina]

I need help from another sub on the subject of being a slut in general not just in the bedroom. i cant be a slut for work but i need to be one when we go out somewhere or just sitting around with his friends. please any help would be great.

[amber321]

i kind of like the word "slut" lol .. it has been only the last couple years where we have done anything in public, but it was VERY exciting and fun and led to amazing sex

unfortunately, with plans to be a teacher, we can only do this when we are far from home and know for certain we will not meet anyone we know.... also with nearly everyone having a phone that takes pics and/or video, things have a way of showing up on the net... so we have to be real careful

being a slut, usually just means me in tight low cut tops, very short slit skirts, stockings, heels, etc all without panties or bra of course and basically a lot of bending, reaching fondling and stuff

its not as easy as it seems! mainly cause you dont want to do it in front of kids, and you also dont want to be arrested... thankfully, security usually will just ask you to leave if it comes to that

[Rapina]

my problem with it is my dom is requiring me to become a slut normally around him. i can get some of the talk but that issue i have is i know the slut of flirting and teasing guys. well apprently thats not what he wants and i cant seem to understand what he means. and he cant explain it to me for some fucking reason, pardon my anger. so i need more of a personality and demeanor in a general sense. any idea?

[Indhander]

Maybe he is wanting you in those heels, dark makeup, and sheer nighty when he wants through the door of your/his house. The heels, the walk, the makeup, the attitude when you are together could also be what he is wanting.

[amber321]

im sorry guys, i didnt realize this was in 2 sections

i totally get what Oz is saying and i too thought you meant in PUBLIC

soon as you said private, it put a whole new spin on it

i think what he is asking is that you be a whole hell of a lot more open about what you want sexually... this is gonna be a bit to explain

ok look...lets say he comes home at a certain time each day... and you want him to just spank you and fuck you silly at that time...for example...well you be waiting naked a beer in one hand and a hairbrush in the other... and maybe a bowl of chips between your legs...of course im kidding about theat last part,... you can be ready in so many number of ways...say to massage him...have a bath ready....... say you just want to please him before dinner...well have the maids uniform ready.. you just need to gauge what he is looking for ... surely you have SOME idea... if not, wait til sex and tell him what YOU want...maybe he thinks that is "slutty" you telling him exactly what you want... oh yeah, bite that nipple, slap my ass, and call me aunt gertrude... if of course that is it

you guys will strike a balance... its inevitable... but there is no need to make it more complicated..as soon as you said he wants slutty in private, it told me he is looking for just more openly sexual... let your imagination run wild and for fucks sake, if there was anything you wanted to try but were shy or reserved of, well go for it !

[concubine]

Well if he want's you to be a slut around his friends too then that would probably mean a lot of flirting with them. i would say do things like bending over to pick things up with your ass or breasts in thier face, make inuendos around them but then look at your Dom in the eye to show him that you like turning on his friends but are just meant for him. Make it a point to do a lot of touching or petting of his friends when they are around. Do it to your Dom too when his friends are watching. It sounds like he wants to show you off to his friends, show that he has control over your sexual desire. He may also want you to do this just so you can be naughty and he has reason to punish you.

[Ozme52]

If I expecct my girl to be a slut in front of my friends, she'd also be required to follow through.

That's part of the thrill of owning a slut.

[didoanna]

Umm, I would say it's not just the clothing but the 'attitude' that counts as well. It's not just about the fact that you enjoy your Masters cock. I would argue that if you're going to be a 'slut', then you've got to want to relish have his cock, to thrive on having his cock. To be bold and shameless about being fucked and being taken. That I would say is being a slut.

But as others have written, the key here is communication....why not in a 'neutral zone' ask him what he expects. Perhaps even get him to e-mail you so that if need be he can think about what he really, really wants and expects of you and can then tell you in an open way.

[angelic.zest]

I am with didoanna, in saying being a slut is more then just clothing it's in the attitude! Owning your sexiness will help, knowing that you are powerful and sexy, and confident can also help!! Also, I would say to ask him, since he wants you to be a slut only he can tell you how he wants you to be. Also tell him to go into detail, full detail that way there's no guessing.

[thewhorenextdoor]

just show him that everything you do is appealing to his desire and on a bdsm level his approval as well. look up at him, walk behind him, take his conversational cues and learn how he is most happy to see you respond... and tell him. my man k loves when tell him that i'm his dirty little slut, and that i want him to use me like his slut. there's really nothing sluttier than being a proud slut, so just DO THE DAMN THING. remember that your body is an instrument of pleasure and that it should always look appealing. wear things that show that you are more interested in being sexually appealing than anything else. lick your lips. point out other other girls and call them hot,sexy etc. (regardless of whether you feel that way) - guys love this because they don't feel threatened by your attraction to another chick and at the same time they get to think of you being... slutty. i don't know i'm just kind of rambling. it's hard to explain my daily life in a few pointers,yaknow?

[denuseri]

Walks in and looks up at Oz wondering just how many "friends" he has and blushes.

Rapina it sounds to me like your dominant and you need to have a nice long conversation "out of scene" or during a "timeout" or whatever you wish to call it with no fear of reprisal present and discuss the boundaries and limits of your arrangment with each other for the purposes of clairification.

He can not seriously expect you to just know what he wants as if by magic.

Sometimes a trainned slave can be empathetic and mindful enough to provide the sembalance of just such an illussion for those she serves...but that kind of trainning is not something I can very easily explain in a text alone medium, one has to be able to see and read the one they serve and "know" what the non-verbal comunication is really saying to one...often times the whip will tell one when they have it wrong too...lol.

I can talk about slave heat, "pleasure slave trainning" (how to be a slut that drives men crazy 101), what a slut is or is not until I am blue in the face (we could quite litterally fill a whole thread or two or three with it, heck some may already have I know I explained "how" to move in the being kajira thread) but unless you know the specifics of your dominants desires conserning what he wants all I could do is discuss the general basics.

His participation would still be required...he would still have to express his desires conserning what he liked and did not like etc. Does he want you to flirt subtley? Or more overt? Brazeingly and wanton...or passive enticment as if your innocent of the desires your urging on...or perhaps some kind of combination of all that and more depending upon the situation as some are required to do?

There is almost an endless number of ways to be a slut. Hence the need for him and you to have a discussion of some kind.

[Ozme52]

Walks in and looks up at Oz wondering just how many "friends" he has and blushes.

denu... I'd love for you to find out.

[DontBother]

FYI rapina hasnt been on this site for more then a month.

[denuseri]

Just becuase the op hasn't been around in some time doesn't mean the rest of us can't benifit from a conversation about this topic does it?